So you find a guy, you’ve been dating for quite some time, but you can’t seem to figure out how to make him commit. You’re not alone. There are plenty of women that go through the same thing. You wonder if you’re forcing something that is not there, if you are trying to commit too soon, or if this is going to be a scenario in which he never commits. Well, if you’re tired of sitting around waiting for him to decide on the relationship, you will need to put a little fire under him and see how it goes. Below are a few tips on how to do that.
Be an Awesome Partner
The first thing to make him commit is to be an awesome partner. You can’t very well expect him to want to be involved with you for the long haul if you’re not doing your part to make him happy. Yes, there are some things that should be saved for new levels in the relationship; however, you need to be an all around nice person to be with. If you’re nagging, complaining, and annoying all the time this could be why he has not committed to you yet.
Don’t Give Away the “Cookies”
One of the biggest mistakes that women make when trying make him commit is giving up the “cookies” just a bit too soon. Sex, while important in a relationship is not the determining factor that will automatically make him want to be exclusively with you. Get to know him, allow him to get to know you, and only give out “cookies” when you’ve gotten him to say that you’re in a relationship. This also applies to moving in together. “Friends with benefits” will get you nowhere in the long run.
Have a Conversation
If too much time has elapsed you may just have to talk to make him commit. Be careful springing it up too soon as some men just like to take their time. However, if you’ve been dating consistently for at least six months it may be time to define the relationship. Don’t be confrontational or forceful, just state your opinion, ask him to define where the relationship is going, and make your determination.
If you’re successful in your quest to make him commit you will be one lucky girl. However, if he is not willing to commit you need to assess your needs and determine if you want to keep being strung along until he is ready or if you want to move on to someone who is willing to give you what you need.